I placed the $20 bill on my lap as I sat in my car waiting
for my friend to arrive. I was taking some things out of my purse and placing
them directly in my pocket for quicker access.
I completely forgot that the money was there as I opened the
door and stepped outside into a gust of wind. As soon as my foot hit the ground,
I realized that the bill was missing. A quick glance around my car revealed
that it was long gone… already blowing through the parking lot to land where it
would later be found. The event was at a college campus, and the constant buzz
of activity ensured that my $20 bill would eventually be in someone else’s
pocket.
Normally, my reaction would not be good. I, like most people,
am on a budget and something like this would’ve naturally caused me to obsess
ALL DAY about what the money could’ve done (buy gas or groceries, etc). But lately,
I am trying not to sweat the small stuff.
I have been reading the book “You are a Badass” by Jen
Sincero (a great read BTW) and a passage that stuck with me was about just this; that when we happen
across life’s little annoyances, we should try and put a positive spin on them.
The author suggests taking the situation and completing the phrase “It’s a good
thing this happened because if it didn’t then…….”. Putting this positive spin
on the issue almost always changes your mentality. As I felt myself starting to
obsess and stress, I tried to apply this approach.
Flash back to my high school years. I was 15 years old and
not yet able to work other than earning a few bucks here or there babysitting.
Baggy jeans
were the fashion (yes-
I’m an 80’s girl!), but
at the $20 price tag buying them was not within my reach. I tried on the perfect pair- they would complete my outfit
for an upcoming dance that I so badly wanted to look amazing for. Confidence is
not an easy thing to find at 15, and these pants would do the trick.
I left the store defeated and bummed.
The very next day, as I am walking down the street, I spot
it: a folded up bill lying on the sidewalk. As I pick it up and take a closer
look I am astonished to see that it is a $20 bill. What luck!! Could this
really be happening to me?? At 15, the whole world seems to work against you…so
I was stunned at this good fortune. I was ecstatic and immediately returned to the store for the baggy
pants and wore them proudly to the dance. In fact, every time I wore
those jeans I felt special because of the circumstances that they came to be. But
someone HAD to have lost that money- and in the 80’s, $20 was not small change.
There is something about finding money. It makes you feel
lucky, even if it's loose change. When my father would take his grandchildren
on walks, the kids would be so excited to find various coins along the way.
They thought that their grandfather was their good luck charm and always looked
forward to those walks. It was years before they realized that he dropped those
coins as they strolled, when they weren't looking- to add a little ‘special’ to their day.
Flash forward again…I am standing in the parking lot of the
event remembering how wonderfully awesome it felt to find that money. I am thinking
about my father, too, and how he made his grandkids feel lucky and suddenly my
positive spin comes to me. “It’s a good thing I lost that $20 bill because
if I didn't, I wouldn't have made someone’s day a little more special."
Maybe that someone needed a little luck.....
For the rest of the day I was smiling.
What a great lesson. Instead of cultivating bitter resentment which is low energy for the rest of the day we can change the focus and creating loving life energy for the rest of the day impacting others lives positively! I enjoyed your lesson and memories. Thanks for sharing�� Maggie
ReplyDeleteThanks so much, Maggie. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment!!
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